Sometimes it takes hearing others complain about their troubles and pet peeves with their spouses and significant others to make me a little more aware of just how lucky I am. Don’t' get me wrong, I know I'm lucky, but hearing the complaints of others sometimes just makes it that much more obvious to me.
My husband may not be perfect. In fact, if you were a fly on the wall in our house sometimes, you might think that I think he does everything wrong… but in fact, he actually does a lot of things right. YES, SWEETHEART… if you are reading this, I SAID IT…. You do LOTS right.
I do the cooking, he does the dishes (and sometimes even remembers to turn on the dishwasher! lol). I do the laundry (however long it might take me), while he cleans up after the animals, takes out the trash, mows the lawn, maintains the pool in the summer… all, for the most part, without me having to ask. I handle the bills, our schedules, the kid’s schedules, doctor appointments, grocery shopping, planning for holidays and birthdays, etc. He goes along with all of it, mostly without complaint.
The best of the best, however, is what a great Daddy he is. From the moment our first child was born, he's been hands on. Making bottles, changing poopy diapers, taking turns getting up in the middle of the night, letting me sleep in (on my sleep-in day on the weekend), doctor appointments and everything in between.
While I leave early in the morning, typically before the kids are out of bed, he gets himself and both kids ready in the mornings, and takes them to the babysitter before going to work himself. He not only helps with bedtime & bath time routines, but is pretty much the master at getting the baby settled down for bed.
Although his patience is worn after having two and then suddenly three children, and he tends to argue with them on their level at times, he's still the ultimate playmate to the kids. We are a hockey family. All hockey, all the time – none of them ever get tired of it.
Some daddies miss moments, but not this one – he's there for all of them.
So, when I hear friends complain about the lack of help they have at home and doing so much with their house and kids on their own… I have to step back and say "Aha! I'm a lucky girl. I sure do have one of the good guys."